Should we be worried about our use of alcohol (and, perhaps, other drugs) over the holiday weekend?
We’ve been back at work for a couple of days. The fuzzy head has cleared up. Maybe we’ve made that pledge that so many of us have made on the morning (or afternoon) of January 1st, something on the order of, “Man! I’m never going to do that to myself again!”
A bit of cutting loose on New Year’s Eve is thoroughly ingrained in our culture, and that of most others through the world. There is something about the holiday — perhaps our resolutions to clean up our act in the coming year — that seems almost to demand it. Nonetheless, if we tied one on, we may be concerned.
The main thing to look at is our pattern of drinking throughout the year, not our behavior on New Year’s Eve. Do we get trashed once a year? Once a month? Do we drink five drinks or more in one sitting? Do we do it often?
Have we ever had a blackout? Contrary to popular belief, “blackout” does not refer to drinking until we pass out — although the two sometimes go hand-in-hand. Rather, a blackout is when we remain conscious, keep partying, and then lose complete track of what we did. Friends tell us about it later on. Relatives comment on late-night phone calls, and we haven’t the foggiest notion of what we talked about. We wake up on a concrete slab wearing orange pajamas, and don’t know how we got there. Stuff like that.
One blackout, like one DUI, may have been poor judgement. More than one — ever — indicates a problem that needs looking at. Folks without problems don’t get a second DUI; they learned their lesson. People who got sick drunk, or otherwise impaired to the point of blackout, are the same way. If it’s a recurring pattern, there’s a problem.
Did we catch hell from our partner about our behavior? Partner have a black eye? Boss a little cool after the office party? Friends less than friendly? Car dented or misplaced? So sick we couldn’t get in to work? Calling in sick after another weekend? Is there a pattern here?
It’s not up to professionals to decide if we need help (at least until we mess up to the point that someone has to), it’s up to us.
Bottom line: If we’re wondering if we have a problem, we probably do. Lying to other folks is rude, and may get is in hot water. Lying to ourselves about our drinking and drugging may ruin the rest of our lives.
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